Have you ever felt like people only keep you around for what you can offer, rather than appreciating you for who you truly are? It’s frustrating, heartbreaking, and, quite frankly, exhausting. Kind-hearted people often attract those who see generosity as a weakness rather than a virtue. If you’ve ever found yourself in this situation, you’re not alone.

I’ve seen it firsthand—so-called “friends” who are only present when they need something but vanish when you’re the one in need. And worse, some go as far as trying to manipulate or guilt-trip you into keeping them in your life, even resorting to emotional blackmail. How is that friendship? What happened to mutual respect and genuine connection?

Recognizing Fake Friendships

It can be tough to spot fake friendships, especially when you want to believe the best in people. But here are a few red flags to watch for:

• They only reach out when they need something. Do they disappear when things are going well for you but suddenly show up when they need a favor?
• They make you feel guilty for your success. Instead of celebrating your achievements, they act resentful or entitled.
• They use manipulation or threats. No real friend would ever try to guilt or blackmail you into maintaining the relationship.
• They lack effort or reciprocity. Friendship should be a two-way street. If you’re always the one giving, and they’re always the one taking, something is off.

How to Handle Toxic Friendships

If you find yourself dealing with someone who doesn’t truly value you, it’s time to take action. Here’s how:

1. Set clear boundaries. You don’t owe anyone access to your time, energy, or success if they can’t treat you with respect.
2. Stop enabling the behavior. If someone only comes around when they need something, don’t be afraid to say no.
3. Surround yourself with genuine people. True friends will uplift you, not tear you down. Find those who support and celebrate your wins.
4. Walk away when necessary. It’s okay to outgrow people. Cutting ties with toxic individuals isn’t selfish—it’s self-care.

Let’s Talk About It

Have you ever experienced a fake friendship? How did you handle it? Let’s share our experiences and support each other in the comments. Remember, your kindness is a gift—don’t let the wrong people take advantage of it.